You're Attacking Your Goals The Wrong Way

You need a plan.

Sounds simple, right?

You want to live your ideal life, retire your parents, buy whatever you want, and be able to live on your terms. To accomplish that, you make a plan and execute it. Simple as that.

Well, yes, that’s true, but you need to understand that everyone has dreams and an ideal life that they want to live, so for you to have dreams to buy or do whatever you want isn’t dissimilar to any other person. You don’t want to hear it, but you’re not special, and right now, you don’t deserve it any more than anyone else just because you have those dreams.

I hate to say it, but the difference is the fact that most of the people you see across social media who follow all of these motivation, finance, self-help, or hustle accounts will never even start chasing their dreams and doing things that could actually change their lives.

I’d even go as far as saying that over 90% of Iman Gadzhi or Andrew Tate’s admirers are still yet to take action, even though they know exactly what’s needed of them.

There are many reasons for this, but the most common is the fact that people are just too comfortable with their current situation, for whatever reason. Maybe they’re just getting by and have a roof over their heads, so they’re not willing to put themselves through major discomfort to actually get what they want as they already have something they’re somewhat content with in front of them.

The vast majority will always be stuck in the hole of procrastination and ‘mental masturbation’, constantly watching YouTube videos on ‘how to be productive’, or ‘how to get rich’ to feel good about themselves, but never actually do anything because there’s no guarantee that if they work hard, they’ll accomplish what they want. They’d rather sit back and wait for someone to save them, or for some ‘perfect’ opportunity to present itself in front of them.

Which, unless your head is in the sand, we know will never happen.

As the Stoic philosopher Seneca says, ‘The one thing fools all have in common is that they are always getting ready to live. But they never do it.’

I mean, what would you do if you knew you could not fail?

You need to try your best to live like that; otherwise, you’re always going to be stuck in the same hole.

As controversial as it may sound, failure is a good thing. You either succeed or fail, and with that failure comes a tonne of lessons that you know to never make again, to which you’ll pivot your strategy next time to minimise the chances of failure that much more.

Everyone has failed: Apple, Microsoft, Elon Musk, Mr. Beast, and the list goes on. Your ego has to be incredibly big to expect that you’ll never run into a failure in your life. What makes a person is how they get up from their failures.

No one is coming to save you; you just need to take action.

You have one life and only a finite amount of time. You’ve heard people say that ‘time is your most valuable asset’, and it couldn’t be more true.

To put it into perspective, I’ll ask you this:

Would you rather be a 75-year-old man with $10 billion in the bank or a 20-year-old with nothing?

Now, unless you’re on a completely different wavelength from me, I wouldn’t be surprised if your answer is to be a 20-year-old with nothing.

In fact, I wouldn’t be surprised if that wasn’t far from your current situation.

Refreshing, right?

Warren Buffett (age 92 with a net worth of $119 billion) would do anything to trade positions with you right now.

This is your advantage.

YOU HAVE TIME TO FAIL; you have minimal responsibilities, even if you think your issues are the biggest things in the world right now. You (most likely) don’t have any kids, a mandatory mortgage to pay every month, or major bills to pay.

If you lost everything right now, what’s the worst that’s going to happen? Go and live with your parents? Get a new job? And the chances are, none of these will come to fruition anyway, as we always fear the worst in every scenario.

You’re not going to die.

Get out of your head and get out there.

TAKE RISKS

You may as well get started now; otherwise, you’re going to get to the age of 80 sitting on your deathbed looking back on your life in regret because you know you could have been so much more.

HOWEVER, I HAVE YOUR BACK.

As I said, you need a plan.

What the f*ck are you going to do without one? Is Santa going to come and drop everything you ever dreamed of right on your doorstep?

You have dreams, and you have goals, but you need to know the vehicle that’s going to get you there.

BUT, you need your goals to be clear.

You’re not going to stick to putting yourself through the discomfort and pain it takes to get to where you want to be if you don’t know why you’re doing it.

99% of people set New Year’s resolutions for the sake of setting New Year’s resolutions.

Most do this because they know they have certain ‘flaws’ but never define the ‘why’ regarding what they’re either starting or quitting, and, therefore, relapse after a few days or weeks.

You want to stop watching as much TV because you think it’s bad for you?

Do that, and you’re falling back into watching TV in your free time on January 3rd because you have no replacement in place for that time, nor have you defined a well-thought-out WHY for wanting to quit watching TV other than say you want to stop.

Whereas a different person wants to quit TV and states, ‘I want to quit watching TV so that I can spend more time with my wife, kids, and have more time for more fulfilling activities such as going on family walks, doing things as a family, and give myself time to go to the gym or work on my business’

That guy is going to make 10x more progress than the guy who said, ‘I want to quit TV because it’s bad for me’.

Of course, it depends on the person’s situation, but there needs to be a why behind everything you ever set out to do; otherwise, you’ll be back at square one within 2 days.

How are you going to get to a destination if you don’t know where you’re going?

Define your WHY before anything else.

In regards to goals, I don’t mean to buy a Lamborghini. Think of things that are fulfilling, such as providing for your family, paying off your parents’ mortgage, or living with the freedom that comes with the wealth you’re aspiring to attain.

Now that you have clarity on your ‘why’,

You need a plan, and you need to execute it.

Find that vehicle that’s going to take you to your dreams, whatever it may be, and split that down into small tasks to make it happen.

You want to go down the route of building an SMMA (Social Media Marketing Agency)?

Ok, cool

Split it down into the smallest tasks you can.

• Decide on the name

• Pick your target niche (i.e Gardeners)

• Niche down on one specific service (i.e. Paid Ads)

• Make the website

• Make the email domain

• Research how to deliver an incredible service (this is more important than anything)

• Write the cold email templates

These are just a few examples, but if you complete them, you’re already doing better than 99% of people because no one ever actually takes action.

How many times have you sat at your desk wanting to be ‘productive’ but with no clear idea of how you’re going to actually be ‘productive?’

Pretty often, right?

We can change this right now.

BEFORE you even think about turning your computer on, write down EXACTLY what you’re going to do when that monitor turns on.

Examples:

• Make the website

• Write the cold email templates

• Create a short eBook explaining the service you offer to make closing the sale easier

This way, you won’t turn your PC on and scroll through it aimlessly, watching YouTube videos, etc, expecting something to just ‘come to you’ so THEN you can be productive. Because it won’t.

You’re procrastinating again.

Write down EXACTLY what you’re going to do when that screen turns on and gets to work. We both know doing anything other than work isn’t going to get you anywhere other than distracting you from the problems in your life, which is funny because it’s backwards, as that’s more than likely why you intend to start the business in the first place.

Most people nowadays avoid their thoughts as much as they can, whether that be with social media or just whatever’s stimulating. As soon as a small hit of stress or boredom hits them, they go straight onto their phone to avoid attacking it head-on.

You need to do the ‘hard’ things and the things with the most resistance, as those are the ones that move you forward.

As Steven Pressfield says: ‘The more important a call to action is to our soul's evolution, the more Resistance we will feel about answering it’

Most quit as soon as something ‘hard’ arises and go down the easy route, such as checking their phone, and whilst doing so, put the task they know they need to do off until a later date because it has so much ‘resistance’ around it.

The obstacle is the way.

You need to make working as easy and frictionless as possible. The idea of writing some email templates has a lot less weight to it than the idea of ‘starting a social media marketing agency’.

Split it down into the smallest tasks you can and attack them one by one, avoiding doing two things at once. Do one task, finish that, and then attack the next on your list. It’s as simple as that.

Don’t be the person who is always getting ready to live, saying they’re going to do something but never actually doing it.

Get yourself out there and take action; otherwise, you’ll live a life of regret.

But remember to enjoy yourself too.

Work hard, play hard—it’s as simple as that.

Work with the intention of working, and play with the intention of having fun. Don’t be 50% working and 50% ‘playing’ (by checking social media constantly, etc) at the same time; you won’t get anywhere.

Your dreams have value and are something you aspire to have BECAUSE they’re hard to attain.

If it were easy, everyone would do it; that’s what gives it value.

Seek and embrace discomfort, or stay in the same place.

Your choice.

Happy New Year.

Oli